the upnp says started but is set to manual
and the WMP netork sharing is set to started and automatic(delayed
These are the default settings in Windows 7 Home Premium, there's no need to change them.
The "Network" options of WMP have nothing to do with local streaming, they only affect audio and video streamed from the Internet.
1) Which antivirus software are you using?
2) Do you run a firewall other than the one built into Windows 7?
3) Which media types are checked if you go to "More streaming options" and then choose "Choose homegroup and sharing options"?